In my last post, I explained why it’s not realistic to think you can stop fighting completely with your spouse / partner. I assumed that you picked the option of wanting to stay in the relationship and improve it. (The other two options are to end the relationship or to stay in it without changing …
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Stop Fighting, part 1 of 2
Many couples call me because they have reached a point where the conflict in their relationship has become too much to bear. They’re angry, exhausted, lonely, and afraid. Not a comfortable place! The shocking news I have to give them is I can’t help this couple – these two lovely people – to stop fighting. …
Free Marriage Counseling
Several times every week visitors arrive at my website who are searching on some variation of “free marriage counseling.” I wish I could offer my services for free. After all, I got into this line of work because I’m passionate about helping people change stuck patterns into more satisfying ways of relating. But, until I …
Life Balance Wheel
You might be familiar with this tool already. There are many versions posted online. Each of the “pie slices” represents an aspect of your life. By rating each one you can get a sense of where your strengths and resources lie, and which areas are the least satisfying. It’s important to consider both: you will …
Life Tasks
This is a more basic version of the core areas of life that are more important to one’s health and well-being. Each of the “pie slices” represents an aspect of your life. By rating each one you can get a sense of where your strengths and resources lie, and which areas are the least satisfying. …
If Not Now, When?
Many people hesitate to get help from counseling. The reasons why are numerous, and maybe I’ll talk about them in a future post. The root problem of all of them, though, is they can keep you from getting a resolution of your emotional pain. Small issues in life might resolve themselves without further harm to …
Couple or Individual Counseling? (part 2 of 2)
The second situation (from part 1) is focused more on your internal needs and thoughts. You might be hesitant to attend with your partner. You might suspect that some of your core issues are at the root of the problems you’re experiencing. Or, you might be confused about whether the problems are just yours to …
Couple or Individual Counseling? (part 1 of 2)
In this post, I’m going to give you the “executive summary” then discuss some of the ramifications of this question: Getting help now before problems escalate into something harder to deal with is more important than whether you do individual or couple counseling. Sometimes it’s clear which is the best choice for you when trying …
Couple Counseling – Who Needs It?
(Note: Couple Counseling aka Marriage Counseling aka Relationship Counseling) The short answer is “Anyone who thinks he/she does.” (The person who “needs” counseling but doesn’t believe he/she does, is a trickier issue which I’ll post about another time.) Now, if your companion is willing to go to counseling, the two of you can work on …
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