Sometimes clients want to talk about someone who’s hurt them. Maybe it was a long time ago, maybe it was recently. But something about the hurt is keeping it fresh, almost alive for my client. In such cases, we talk about many aspects of the hurt; we thoroughly process the experience. And, sometimes, even after …
There’s a famous quote defining insanity as doing the same thing again and again, yet expecting different results. We laugh because on the face of it we recognize the futility of such behavior while also being aware we’ve each been guilty of doing exactly what is being warned against. Do you wonder, along with me, …
You might be familiar with this tool already. There are many versions posted online. Each of the “pie slices” represents an aspect of your life. By rating each one you can get a sense of where your strengths and resources lie, and which areas are the least satisfying. It’s important to consider both: you will …
This is a more basic version of the core areas of life that are more important to one’s health and well-being. Each of the “pie slices” represents an aspect of your life. By rating each one you can get a sense of where your strengths and resources lie, and which areas are the least satisfying. …
Many people hesitate to get help from counseling. The reasons why are numerous, and maybe I’ll talk about them in a future post. The root problem of all of them, though, is they can keep you from getting a resolution of your emotional pain. Small issues in life might resolve themselves without further harm to …
The second situation (from part 1) is focused more on your internal needs and thoughts. You might be hesitant to attend with your partner. You might suspect that some of your core issues are at the root of the problems you’re experiencing. Or, you might be confused about whether the problems are just yours to …
In this post, I’m going to give you the “executive summary” then discuss some of the ramifications of this question: Getting help now before problems escalate into something harder to deal with is more important than whether you do individual or couple counseling. Sometimes it’s clear which is the best choice for you when trying …
(Note: Couple Counseling aka Marriage Counseling aka Relationship Counseling) The short answer is “Anyone who thinks he/she does.” (The person who “needs” counseling but doesn’t believe he/she does, is a trickier issue which I’ll post about another time.) Now, if your companion is willing to go to counseling, the two of you can work on …
