The biggest mistake I see couples and others in committed relationships make, is to think that somehow love will be enough. Enough to read your partner’s mind. Or, maybe at least enough to avoid annoying each other. Well, certainly enough to resolve which way to hang the toilet paper, right? Well, no, it just doesn’t …
If you find any of the common personality typologies – such as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, Social Styles, Enneagram, and so on – useful, you might appreciate the insights offered by the Personality Priorities. One of the best things about it, is assessment takes less than 1 minute. All you do is pick your least …
Would your decision be easier if “being together” didn’t necessarily mean “being wrong”? A lot of couples argue about who’s right, and “The Truth”, as if there was an objective reality. And, of course, each partner believes he/she is the one who’s right. I call this “Right Fighting” and here’s why it’s a waste of …
In my last post, I explained why it’s not realistic to think you can stop fighting completely with your spouse / partner. I assumed that you picked the option of wanting to stay in the relationship and improve it. (The other two options are to end the relationship or to stay in it without changing …
Many couples call me because they have reached a point where the conflict in their relationship has become too much to bear. They’re angry, exhausted, lonely, and afraid. Not a comfortable place! The shocking news I have to give them is I can’t help this couple – these two lovely people – to stop fighting. …
