Tag: Change

Create the Day You Want

It comes down to Intention and Action versus Wishful Hoping. When your leave your house for work or other outings, are you distracted by being late, or remembering you need to stop for gas, or thinking about some other errand, chore, or responsibility? If not – and that’s rare for many of us – then …

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Suffering from an ANT Invasion?

The four main types of Automatic Negative Thoughts: Perfectionist, Worrier, Critic, Victim

ANTs are Automatic Negative Thoughts. We all have them at times. Sometimes we have so many they crowd out more balanced or realistic thoughts and overwhelm us with feelings of unworthiness, incompetence, hopelessness, or failure. These thoughts are masters at appearing realistic and conning us into believing them. Then they do their damage of changing …

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Do Something Different

try something different

There’s a famous quote defining insanity as doing the same thing again and again, yet expecting different results. We laugh because on the face of it we recognize the futility of such behavior while also being aware we’ve each been guilty of doing exactly what is being warned against. Do you wonder, along with me, …

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Stop Fighting, part 2 of 2

In my last post, I explained why it’s not realistic to think you can stop fighting completely with your spouse / partner. I assumed that you picked the option of wanting to stay in the relationship and improve it. (The other two options are to end the relationship or to stay in it without changing …

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Stop Fighting, part 1 of 2

Many couples call me because they have reached a point where the conflict in their relationship has become too much to bear. They’re angry, exhausted, lonely, and afraid. Not a comfortable place! The shocking news I have to give them is I can’t help this couple – these two lovely people – to stop fighting. …

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If Not Now, When?

Many people hesitate to get help from counseling. The reasons why are numerous, and maybe I’ll talk about them in a future post. The root problem of all of them, though, is they can keep you from getting a resolution of your emotional pain. Small issues in life might resolve themselves without further harm to …

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